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D., professor at Oakland University and author of "There’s no such thing as a failed romance.
How does the issue of respect relate to our romantic relationships, and how can we build and preserve it?Here, we've distilled it down to the very best advice 15 experts have learned.Regardless of your personal situation, their words may help you uncover the key to long-lasting happiness.It’s best not to try to make something that is meant to be seasonal or temporary into a lifelong relationship.Let go and enjoy the journey."— April Beyer, matchmaker and dating and relationship expert"This may sound obvious, but you can't imagine how many people come to couples therapy too late, when their partner is done with a relationship and wants to end it.'No relationship is perfect' shouldn't be used as a rationalization for complacency."— Irina Firstein, LCSW, individual and couples therapist"A friend taught me that no matter how in love you are or how long you've been together, it's important to take an exhale from your partnership.
Hang out with girlfriends until late in the evening, take a weekend trip to visit family, or just spend time 'doing you' for a while. D., assistant professor of communication, Texas State University"'You are my everything' is a lousy pop-song lyric and an even worse relationship plan. Create relationships outside The Relationship, or The Relationship isn't going to work anymore."— Matt Lundquist, LCSW, couples therapist"Sex isn't just about orgasms.
"Saying and doing small, simple expressions of gratitude every day yields big rewards.
When people feel recognized as special and appreciated, they're happier in that relationship and more motivated to make the relationship better and stronger. Make small gestures that show you're paying attention: Hug, kiss, hold hands, buy a small gift, send a card, fix a favorite dessert, put gas in the car, or tell your partner, 'You're sexy,' 'You're the best dad,' or simply say 'Thank you for being so wonderful.'"— Terri Orbuch, Ph.
The principles of loving toughness are the same for those who are single as for those who have been married for decades.
There are circumstances, however, that are specific to the courtship period.
Many times an issue is brought up by attacking or blaming one’s partner, also known as criticism, and one of the killers of a relationship. Instead of saying, 'You always leave your dishes all over the place! ' try a more gentle approach, focusing on emotional reaction and a positive request.